'It really doesn't matter if the person who hurt you deserves to be forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You have things to do and you want to move on.'
-Real Live Preacher
The memory is still fresh, like the scent of your favorite perfume, of that one moment when he/she hurt you. That moment when those words were pronounced, and like a poisoned dagger cleaving the chest of its victim, you were in deep pain.
It is hard to ignore, as much as we try, for a wounded leg will make you limp even if you stop paying attention to it.
What exactly happened that made you feel so? What hurt you? I have to say no one hurt you but yourself, for it is your view of things that has made you feel this way.
So, open up your eyes and your mind, and try to see more of that particular event than the stuff you have chosen (consciously or unconsciously) to remember. Things will seem so different then.
Did you feel unimportant? Why so, what made you feel that way? Were you ignored, or did you just feel you were ignored because you wanted all attention to yourself?
Were you laughed at, or did people try to laugh WITH you, but you took it the wrong way?
Whatever happened, there’s always at the very least two sides to a coin, so will you choose to dwell in the gloom of defeat or bask in the light of forgiveness and reconciliation?
Forgive. It is a learning process and it takes all of our lives to become really proficient. That way your wound will start to heal, and your burden will become less cumbersome.
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"A long-standing resentmen is called a grievance. To carry a grievance is to be in a permanent state of 'against'... [It] is kept alive by compulsive thinking, by retelling the story in the head or out loud of 'what someone did to me.'... Forgiveness happens naturally when you see that [a grievance] has no purpose other than to strengthen a false sense of self, to keep the ego in place. The seeing is freeing." -- "A New Earth," by Eckhart Tolle
"My grievances show me what is not there, and hide from me what I would see. Recognizing this, what do I want my grievances for? They keep me in darkness and hide the light. Grievances and light cannot go together, but light and vision must be joined for me to see. To see, I must lay grievances aside." -- "A Course in Miracles"
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