Goal set…

'In order to reach your goal you must first define it...'
-The Puppet Master


Where were you one year ago from today?

What were you doing?

How did you feel back then?

Where were you hoping to be today?

How far from where you expected to be have you drifted?

…why?



What has become your prison?
What has seemed so strong you have surrendered and given ultimate power to rule over your life, change it, and bring you here today?

Do take some time to set a goal for yourself, see it in the horizon as a lighthouse and let it shine even in the darkest hour or torrential rain. We get caught up in so many things each day that we sometimes seem to navigate endlessly, gazing mesmerized at the many beautiful and bright stars, only to forget we were being guided. Your will fades, your strength dwindles, and then we consciously/unconsciously conform to the meager leftover of others…because it is easier in life not to struggle.

Well you don’t have to struggle. You can refocus today.
Instead of inviting someone to eat, go by yourself. Do not read a newspaper or magazine. Just sit for a brief moment, turn your cell phone off.
Write down on a piece of paper that new dream, the new goal. Think of it hardly enough, and better than that, believe it will happen, because this time you WILL make it happen.

Save that little piece of paper, and let it be your lighthouse. Nothing will deter you.
I am doing this right now, and I encourage you to do it with me.

Let us help each other achieve our goals.



Lesson learned: I will not be an unwilling obstacle, rather a willing facilitator to someone else’s growth.

Winner's circle...

‘Winning isn’t everything, it’s the only thing’
-Vince Lombardi

After a long and arduous race ends someone gets the first place. That someone is clearly joyous.
If you participated, how do you feel if you were second? How about third? Last?
‘Participation is what matters’ are the most common words echoed by all those who weren’t first place.
Why do they say so?
They do because they are not the winners. Not only are they not ‘the winners’, but they are just proving themselves time and time again that they lack what it takes to be a winner.

How do you define ‘Win’? Think of it for a second: What does it mean to you when you hear the word ‘Win’?

To Win is defined as: to finish first in a race, contest or the like. That is what most of us think of when we hear the term.
However, it is also defined as: To succeed by great effort, to be successful, and to overcome the adversary.

Most times our main adversary is within us. It is that loser within that keeps us from becoming successful, and convinces us that ‘participating’ is what matters.
When you participate you just ‘take a part of/in’. It means you are just one more.

From now on: stop looking at other’s positions in the Race of Life to determine if you’re a winner, a participant or just a loser. Look at your own position, enjoy your journey while you take part on it, and win.

Open up your eyes and hearts to a new mentality, feel like a winner; be a winner, and BECOME A WINNER. It will move you one step closer to your ultimate happiness.

Lesson learned: There can be no losing in the road to happiness, for even those who pass away are not lost, for they are still within us.

Singled out...

If love conquers all...then conquer yourself and rule the world!
-The Puppet Master

Isn’t it great to have someone else?


Think of waking up in the morning to see your loved one’s face as they sleep at peace. It gives us a sense of warmth, of love that is being the reflection of our own emotion.

Think of the beautiful smile of that other half, and how it has(and continues to) brightened your many days and the laughter many nights.

Think of that calming touch of that someone who has dispelled all fears with but a single caress.

Think of the watery eyes of our loved one when they gaze at our own unable to hide their hurting, and think of how you can’t help it but disarm yourself when you love that someone’s eyes.

Isn’t it great to have someone else?
Someone asked me today: How can you be single? There must be something very wrong with you…

To many, being alone is a dreadful nightmare.
Being alone is not, but can definitely be…


Why is being single so negative? Or better…why does it seem so?


As a human race, our goal in life is to be fruitful and reproduce, to be successful, and to be with someone. It is just because we are misdirected.
In that desperation we seek others that have their own ‘baggage’ of problems, and we seek to ‘love through helping others’ rather than ‘helping others though love’.

Our goal should be to love ourselves, to be happy with ourselves.
That will stop us from looking in someone else for that which we are lacking. We will truly be able to fall in love, and find that someone who instead of ‘completing us’ will ‘complement us’.

Lesson learned: Isn’t it great to have someone else? It certainly is, when that someone is worth it…