If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have it, no matter what else there is, it's not enough.
-Ann Landers
Why do you not express love fully, without any regards to what people would/could say/think?
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Answer yourself…why?
Many of you will answer: because I was never taught how…
Love is described as ‘any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection and attachment. Often a feeling stronger than liking.’
You weren’t taught to breathe, run, or smile. If you think carefully, you weren’t taught to be scared, horrified, or even to hate…and you gladly and easily show them many times…
Why then, is it so hard to show love? Philosophers and psychologists theorize we are/feel weak when we expose our ‘soft side’ by choosing to show love. We fear rejection, and therefore we don’t initiate the complex dance of showing affection.
Yet as children we showed affection and love with no regrets, without any difficulty.
It has been life's ridiculous job to fill us with fear so that we may abstain from showing affection. We, in turn, have been ridiculous enough to follow.
We can criticize others saying they ‘don’t show affection’ but do we do it ourselves? Don’t ask, don’t criticize; SHOW LOVE so that others may see it, feel it, and show it themselves.
There is not just one way to show love, but the hardest way is both, by letting go and by showing affection, specially with others as witnesses.
Just as you show your new car, house, clothes, or muscles, all vain and superficial, material things, show love with pride, and your entire life will change, and so will the life of those around you.
Lesson learned: If I want to learn to love, I should start by loving.
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There's no disagreement here about the value of showing love. I mean, who could argue with that?
But life does not fill us with fear. No, our natural destiny is joy and love. Instead, I believe we choose fear ourselves, and for a host of reasons. Maybe we were raised that way. Maybe we stay focused on the lack in our lives instead of the direction we're headed. Maybe we feel we deserve nothing better.
When we let go of the ego (the illusion that we're separate) and grasp that we're all threads of the same wonderful fabric, we make it increasingly difficult to harbor hate, fear or those other destructive emotions that pull us away from what we truly want.
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